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𝐀 𝐒𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐡𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐨𝐟 𝐂𝐚𝐫𝐞: 𝐅𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐆𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐦𝐚’𝐬 𝐌𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐌𝐨𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐧 𝐒𝐩𝐚

There are days when sisterhood shows up not in speeches or declarations, but in simple acts of care. Today, on a Sabbath, I found myself at a spa with women who have, over the years, become more than colleagues. They have become sisters. We had decided, almost on a whim earlier this week, that we had neglected ourselves for far too long. A WhatsApp group was created, and when I jokingly asked, “Who is the sponsor? I’m very, very broke,” one of them responded: “Don’t worry, we will take care of it.” Another sister volunteered to cover my bill entirely and she surely did.

It felt spontaneous, yet divine. Only a few weeks ago, in conversation with church elders, I had lamented how long it had been since my last proper spa visit. I spoke of the toll economic hardships had taken, how both time and money had conspired against me, making such care feel impossible. I never imagined that God, who hears even our quietest laments, would provide through a caring sisterhood. What felt like a whim was, in truth, an answered prayer.

𝙒𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙉𝙚𝙚𝙙𝙚𝙙 𝘾𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙁𝙞𝙣𝙙𝙨 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙛𝙩𝙚𝙧 𝙔𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙨

The last time I had a proper spa visit was in Nepal three years ago, and before that in Nairobi, three months before Nepal’s. Since then, my life has been caught between village and town, between economic hardships and demanding schedules. A spa visit often felt like a luxury that belonged to another world. When I had time, I didn’t have money. When I had money, there was no time, or no spa in sight.

But today was different. I wasn’t just lying on a massage table for relaxation. Something unique happened. I reflected more deeply than I ever had during any past spa visit. I remembered my grandmother, my roots, and the generations of women who had always known the importance of such care.

𝙒𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙣 𝙃𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝘼𝙡𝙬𝙖𝙮𝙨 𝘽𝙪𝙞𝙡𝙩 𝙎𝙥𝙖𝙨 𝙤𝙛 𝙏𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙊𝙬𝙣

As I lay there, my thoughts drifted to childhood memories of my late grandmother; Doruka in 2002. I once witnessed her receiving a massage not in a spa, but in the yard of our village home. Her co-wife (bother-in-law’s wife) had walked nearly 18 miles on foot carrying oil extracted from the African python. A mat was laid out behind the house, soap and oil were mixed, and the massage began. Grandma groaned as aching muscles found relief under careful hands. At the end, she thanked her co-wife profusely.

That was their spa with no scented candles, no background music, no white robes. Just sisterhood. Care rendered in the form and context they had.

It struck me today that spa culture is not foreign or wasteful, as some men (especially in my country) like to say. It has always been here, arranged differently, depending on resources and setting. Where money was scarce, women found other ways to minister to each other’s bodies. To dismiss it as indulgence is to erase a history of women’s care that is deeply embedded in our communities.

𝙎𝙞𝙨𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙝𝙤𝙤𝙙 𝙖𝙨 𝙖 𝘾𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙀𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙤𝙢𝙮

Women have always understood something fundamental: survival and thriving require tending not only to the soul, but to the body. A proper bath, a rub, oils pressed into aching muscles; these were not luxuries but healing rituals. They were also acts of solidarity, where one woman said to another: “I see your pain, and I will help carry it for a while.”

Today’s spa experience, paid for by my sisters, mirrored the same dynamic. It wasn’t about luxury, but about a care economy that women build when systems around them fail. In a world where economic hardships and cultural dismissals push women to the margins, such acts of collective care remind us that sisterhood is wealth.

𝙎𝙖𝙗𝙗𝙖𝙩𝙝 𝙍𝙚𝙨𝙩, 𝙍𝙚𝙞𝙢𝙖𝙜𝙞𝙣𝙚𝙙

I had worried about missing church fellowship this Sabbath, so I attended mid-week prayers to remain spiritually grounded. Yet as the week wore on, I also felt an increasing need for deeper physical rest. I do daily exercise, at least 20 minutes without fail under normal circumstances but I knew deep down that a spa visit would be uniquely therapeutic, a way to truly fill my cup.

So instead of being in church today, I chose to tend to my body. I realized that healing my muscles and quieting my spirit was the rest I needed most at this time. This wasn’t about indulgence or income, it was about health, wholeness, and renewal. The Bible reminds us, “The Sabbath was made for man, not man for the Sabbath” (Mark 2:27). What better way to honor the essence of Sabbath than to rest body and soul in the fellowship of sisters?

The quietness of the spa, the healing touch, the laughter we shared, it was fellowship in its own right. It was rest redefined, rooted not in ritual alone, but in the wholeness that God intended when He commanded His children to rest.

𝙍𝙚𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙈𝙖𝙨𝙘𝙪𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙞𝙩𝙮 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝘾𝙖𝙧𝙚

Today’s experience also reminds me of another truth: my grandfather knew his brother’s wife was coming to massage his own wife, and he respected it. He understood its importance. That quiet acceptance stands in stark contrast to the dismissive attitudes I see among many men today, who scoff at spa experiences for women as wasteful. Perhaps they do not realize that their grandmothers and great-grandmothers had their own versions of spas, long before there was money in circulation. To belittle such practices is not wisdom; it is ignorance of one’s own cultural heritage.

𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙏𝙖𝙠𝙚𝙖𝙬𝙖𝙮: 𝙎𝙞𝙨𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙝𝙤𝙤𝙙 𝙞𝙨 𝙎𝙪𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙫𝙖𝙡

Today, as I enjoyed the care of my sisters, I realized we were not just pampering ourselves. We were continuing a tradition of women holding each other up, of creating systems of care where none exist, of affirming that our bodies too are worthy of attention.

I walked out of the spa carrying not just relaxation, but resolve. I will work hard to afford regular spa visits without shame. I will seek a partner who does not see caring for the body as frivolous. And I will cherish the sisterhood that reminds me, sometimes through simple acts, that I am seen, carried, and loved.

Because in the end, a sisterhood of care is not just about massages or baths. It is about women saying to each other: “you deserve ease, you deserve relief, you deserve joy.”

And that is something worth passing from one generation to the next.

𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐉𝐮𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐏𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐁𝐥𝐨𝐜𝐤𝐬 𝐉𝐮𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐒𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐢𝐜𝐞𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐎𝐫𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐫𝐲

This morning, the Court in Juba is set to hear the case of the now-suspended First Vice President of South Sudan, Dr. Riek Machar Teny, chairman of the Sudan People’s Liberation Movement in Opposition (SPLM/IO), alongside other high-profile figures accused of treason and related charges. It is a politically charged trial with weighty implications for our fragile peace. But as a citizen, one cannot help but observe that on days such as this, justice for the powerful often casts a long shadow over the ordinary.

The precise venue, whether the High Court or Freedom Hall matters less than the pattern. Both lie within Juba’s central business district, a space interwoven with vital arteries of public life. Around these venues are Juba Teaching Hospital, the University of Juba, St. Joseph’s Catholic Parish, the national dialysis center, and countless offices, and small businesses that serve as the backbone of the city. These are not peripheral facilities; they are lifelines. Yet when high-profile trials are underway, roads are barricaded, security personnel line the streets, and pickups bristling with armed soldiers stand ready. The atmosphere is tense, intimidating, and in many ways traumatizing to ordinary civilians who only wish to access care, education, worship, justice, or other essential services.

We have seen this before. In 2014, when the famous former political detainees were tried at the high court, access was curtailed in exactly this manner. Ordinary citizens with scheduled hearings found themselves in fear of being turned away and told their matters would have to wait. Pregnant women due for antenatal care or delivery hesitated to approach the hospital. A parent or guardian with a child in need of an urgent vaccine was likely deterred by the sight of guns. Today, patients needing dialysis will likely face the same fear of restricted access. Those who are desperate and brave will have to contend with the indignity of navigating back roads, roads barely passable even for ordinary vehicles. In these moments, the state’s solemn duty to protect life and uphold justice for all is quietly undermined.

This is not simply an inconvenience. It is a violation of fundamental rights. Access to justice is impeded when ordinary citizens are told, implicitly or explicitly, that their day in court must, or could be postponed because a more “important” case is underway. Access to health is obstructed when the atmosphere of fear keeps patients away from essential services. Access to faith and education is compromised when worshippers or students cannot safely approach their parish or university.

What is striking is the absence of communication. When the government announces trials of this magnitude, there is no prior assurance to citizens that their rights to health, justice, education, and worship will not be impeded. There are no proactive measures such as rerouting plans for patients and providers (doctors, nurses, and others), special lanes for service users, or public guidance to reduce fear. The silence is deafening, and it leaves the impression that ordinary people are expendable collateral on days when the powerful are on trial.

South Sudan must do better. High-profile trials are an inevitable part of any country’s democratic and legal evolution. But they must not come at the expense of the ordinary. Government institutions should recognize their duty of care: to ensure that, alongside announcements of such trials, there are concrete, safe, and dignified parallel measures that safeguard uninterrupted access to justice for others, to health for patients, to worship for the faithful, and to education for students.

Justice cannot be said to exist if its pursuit for a few obstructs the rights of the many. The health of our democracy and the health of our people depend on the same principle: no one should be denied access to essential services because the powerful are before the bench.

One day, South Sudan will have to confront not just how justice is dispensed for the high and mighty, but also how it is quietly denied to the ordinary when the state forgets that its first duty is to all its citizens. Until then, the barricades around our courts and Freedom Hall will stand not just as symbols of security, but also as symbols of exclusion.

𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐊𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐑𝐢𝐬𝐤𝐬 𝐁𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐌𝐢𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐭𝐞𝐝

Kindness, generosity, and empathy are among the most beautiful virtues a human being can embody. For some of us, they flow as naturally as breathing. They are not calculated but instinctive, born of a deep conviction that to treat others well is not just moral but deeply human. Yet, life has a way of testing even the noblest instincts. With time and experience, I have learned, sometimes painfully, that kindness, when offered without caution, can be misread, mishandled, and even weaponized.

As a child, I was captivated by the golden rule: “𝘿𝙤 𝙪𝙣𝙩𝙤 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙨 𝙖𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙬𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙢 𝙙𝙤 𝙪𝙣𝙩𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪.” I took it literally, pouring myself wholeheartedly into every act of care or generosity. It felt simple, pure, and right. But adulthood revealed a more complicated reality. In the real world, kindness is not always mirrored. Sometimes, it is exploited. Worse still, it can be misunderstood as weakness, desperation, or a plea for validation. A gesture meant to uplift another can be twisted into a narrative of neediness, manipulation, or apology, even when the giver expects nothing in return.

This misinterpretation becomes most cruel when kindness follows conflict. Offer a helping hand to someone who has wronged you, and they may not see it as an act of grace but as a tactic to regain favor. They may not interpret it as strength but as dependence. And so, I find myself cautious, perhaps too cautious. I now hesitate to extend kindness to those who have dismissed or devalued me, unless conscience compels me because no one else is present and the matter is one of life and death.

The distortion grows sharper in unequal relationships. When kindness flows upward to a senior, an elder, or someone of higher social standing, it often goes unacknowledged. Should the bond sour, the dominant narrative will likely paint them as the benefactor and you as the dependent, no matter the truth. Status has a way of rewriting history in its favor, and kindness rendered downward is easily erased, unless honesty intervenes.

And so I wonder, must virtues like kindness, generosity, and empathy always be offered under the vigilant guard of wisdom? Must they be rationed and directed only where they will not be misunderstood? It feels almost sacrilegious to say so, but I find myself living with this caution. I withhold calls from friends who never return them lest I appear to be forcing myself into their lives. I refrain from offering help unasked, even when I know it is needed, lest thoughtfulness be mistaken for intrusion. I am deliberately learning the art of indifference, a survival skill I once despised.

Yet, in practicing this restraint, I sometimes fear I am betraying myself. Am I losing the essence of who I am, chiseling away at the generosity that once came so easily? Or am I simply maturing into a wisdom that knows kindness without discernment can be self-destructive? This is the paradox I live in: hurt has taught me caution, but caution threatens to harden me.

So I ask, quietly, humbly, perhaps vulnerably, do you wrestle with this too? Have you ever stood at the edge where kindness risks becoming a liability, where generosity feels like self-sabotage, and empathy feels like a burden? What do you turn to when the very virtues that once defined you now demand vigilance for your own survival?

Perhaps the deeper lesson is this: kindness must remain, but it must evolve. It must grow wiser, not weaker. It must be rooted not in the expectation of reciprocity but in the conviction of stewardship. And yet, it must also learn the boundaries that protect dignity. For even light must sometimes shield itself, lest it be mistaken for fire.

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐅𝐫𝐚𝐠𝐢𝐥𝐞 𝐀𝐫𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐅𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤: 𝐖𝐡𝐲 𝐒𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐂𝐨𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐠𝐮𝐞𝐬 𝐁𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐤 𝐈𝐧𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐚𝐝 𝐨𝐟 𝐁𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐝

Maggie walked into the conference room with a knot in her stomach. Her new marketing strategy had earned approving nods from the team, and for a brief moment she allowed herself to feel proud. But then Teddy spoke, and the air shifted.

“That’s a solid plan, Maggie,” she said, her tone polite but edged with dismissal. “But have you considered market volatility? Your numbers seem optimistic. And what about the new competitor that just launched?”

The silence was heavy. Maggie’s triumph drained, replaced by the familiar sting of being exposed, second-guessed, and diminished. With Teddy, this was never about the work alone, it was about positioning.

𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗙𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸 𝗙𝗮𝗶𝗹𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗕𝘂𝗶𝗹𝗱

Feedback is meant to be an instrument of growth. At its best, it is a gift that helps colleagues see what they cannot, and offers guidance toward improvement. But in the wrong hands, feedback becomes fragile, stripped of care and twisted into critique for its own sake.

Teddy had mastered that fragility. She could find a crack in a diamond and present it as though it defined the whole stone. She saw her role not as a builder but as a breaker, never pausing to ask: Does this help the other person grow, or does it simply make them feel small?

𝗙𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗖𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗾𝘂𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗔𝘀𝘀𝗮𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻

What makes such colleagues especially difficult is how they escalate when boundaries are set. Push back gently, and they raise the stakes. They may slip into subtle character assassination, remarks in meetings that undermine you, whispers that cast doubt on your competence, and reminders to others of mistakes long since corrected.

Their corrections rarely come clothed in care. Instead of feedback that strengthens, they deliver judgment that diminishes. Instead of pointing out a fault to guide you forward, they point it out to prove that without them you are nothing. What could have been constructive becomes corrosive.

Over time, this poisons the atmosphere. Colleagues dread collaboration, not because they lack skill, but because they know they will be left bruised rather than built.

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗛𝗼𝗹𝗹𝗼𝘄 𝗣𝘂𝗿𝘀𝘂𝗶𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝗥𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗴𝗻𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻

This habit of breaking rather than building shaped Teddy’s entire career. She pursued certificates, awards, and quick wins that showcased her superiority. She perfected internal presentations but neglected the long-term projects that required patience, humility, and collaboration.

Her approach to learning was extractive, absorbing knowledge from others but rarely giving credit. When she taught, it was never to uplift but to entrench her authority. To admit that others could teach her would have required vulnerability, and vulnerability threatened her fragile sense of worth.

The irony was sharp: while she accumulated accolades, the company’s most meaningful work often stumbled. The atmosphere of trust that sustains collaboration withered in the shadow of one person’s need to outshine.

𝗖𝗵𝗼𝗼𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗡𝗼𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗣𝗹𝗮𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗚𝗮𝗺𝗲

So how do you work with a colleague like Teddy?

The first step is to stop playing the game or competing. Her battlefield is built on insecurity; your strength lies in refusing to enter it. When she picks apart your work, resist the temptation to spar point by point. A calm acknowledgment like, “That’s an interesting perspective”, followed by a redirection to the task at hand often disarms the tension.

Second, safeguard your contributions. Document your work. Not as weapons, but as shields because clarity protects against distortion.

Most importantly, remember that her words are not mirrors of your worth. Her critiques are not verdicts, but reflections of her own insecurity. You are not in competition with her, unless you consent to be.

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗗𝗲𝗲𝗽𝗲𝗿 𝗟𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗼𝗻

The fragile art of feedback lies in knowing that words can either construct or corrode. To build requires humility, compassion, and wisdom. To break requires only insecurity.

Most workplaces have a Teddy. And if we are honest, most of us have moments when we have been Teddy. The temptation to secure worth by cutting others down, to win by exposing rather than uplifting, is deeply human. But the measure of true leadership lies in resisting that temptation.

Feedback that bruises is easy. Feedback that builds is rare. One tears people down to preserve power; the other strengthens them so that collective success becomes possible. The former creates tension; the latter creates trust.

Teddy’s story is a cautionary tale. It reminds us that in every team, the real power lies not in competing to look strong, but in contributing to make others stronger. For in the end, the legacies that endure are not written by those who break, but by those who build.

𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐀𝐝𝐦𝐢𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐇𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐬 𝐄𝐧𝐯𝐲: 𝐖𝐚𝐥𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐖𝐢𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐲 𝐀𝐦𝐨𝐧𝐠 𝐖𝐨𝐥𝐯𝐞𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐒𝐡𝐞𝐞𝐩’𝐬 𝐂𝐥𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠

It is a peculiar truth of life that not everyone who smiles at your success genuinely celebrates with you. There are those who learn from you, even appear to admire your journey, yet beneath the surface, their hearts are clouded with a deep, corrosive envy. Your very life: the integrity, the choices, the path you choose to lead, silently rebukes theirs each day, highlighting the compromises they’ve made in their own lives or the wrong narrative they would want to spread about you.

This isn’t a new phenomenon. The Bible offers a powerful, timeless example in the story of King Saul and David. Initially, Saul recognized David’s anointing and potential. He brought David into his court, saw his successes, and even gave him his daughter Michal in marriage. On the surface, it seemed like support, even admiration.

However, as David’s fame grew after slaying Goliath and the people cheered, “Saul has slain his thousands, and David his tens of thousands!” (1 Samuel 18:7), a dark envy consumed Saul. David’s righteous walk, his consistent success, and the clear favor of God upon him became a constant, unbearable rebuke to Saul, who had lost God’s Spirit due to his own disobedience.

Saul’s “support” quickly turned insidious. He didn’t just wish David ill; he actively sought his downfall. He gave David dangerous military assignments, hoping the Philistines would kill him (1 Samuel 18:17). The offer of his daughter Michal was cleverly conditioned on David bringing back a hundred Philistine foreskins, another calculated “snare” or “bait” designed to lead David to his death.

Why this elaborate deception? Because in David’s fall, Saul hoped to find justification for his own spiritual failures and realisation of his preferred trajectory for David. In David’s failure, he could soothe his own troubled conscience and declare that the life of integrity and divine favor David aspired to was, in fact, impossible. His hidden motive was to diminish David so he wouldn’t feel so diminished himself.

So, how do we navigate such treacherous waters? The wisdom remains: Know such people. Discern their intent. As Jesus himself commanded, “Therefore be as shrewd as snakes and as innocent as doves” (Matthew 10:16). Be gentle, kind, and pure in your own heart, but also keenly aware and discerning of the hidden agendas that might lurk beneath outward appearances. Protect your path, trust your discernment, and continue to walk in integrity, for your light is often the very thing that exposes the darkness.

𝐀𝐝𝐯𝐨𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬’ 𝐂𝐢𝐭𝐲: 𝐀 𝐏𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐞𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐃𝐞𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐬 𝐂𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐒𝐜𝐫𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐲

Advocates in South Sudan have long carried the important duty of defending rights when few dared, and they remain an essential pillar of our fragile democracy. Their contribution deserves recognition. Yet recognition should not come at the expense of principles that safeguard fairness, transparency, and accountability.

The government’s recent allocation of land for an “Advocates’ City,” where each advocate is to receive a plot, is therefore not simply a gesture of appreciation. It is a decision that sets precedent. In policy terms, precedents matter because they create reference points for future allocations and shape how resources are understood, distributed, and justified.

History offers important lessons. There have been precedents where the government of the day allotted land to associations and fraternities, but these allocations were typically for office premises to facilitate collective work, not for private ownership. Another example is the allocation of land in Nyakuron South during the interim government period, where legislators, army generals, and ministers were given surveyed plots upon payment. While many were able to acquire and develop the land, those unable to do so often sold their plots, leading to private transactions far removed from the original policy intent. These experiences caution us that such decisions, however well-intentioned, can evolve into outcomes that reinforce inequality and speculation rather than serve the public good.

This is why transparency is critical. In the case of the Advocates’ City, no publicly known guidelines have been communicated. If such guidelines exist, it was the duty of the Bar Association leadership to make them public, both to educate citizens and to prevent misunderstandings. Transparency in land allocation is not a courtesy, it is a governance obligation that strengthens trust in institutions.

The broader policy question is one of priorities. In a country where many families remain displaced without adequate shelter, and where most state hospitals lack land even to accommodate on-call health workers, often relying on colonial-era buildings in disrepair, the allocation of an entire “city” to one profession sends a troubling signal. Land is not just property in South Sudan; it is livelihood, identity, and survival. When it is distributed as reward and for private ownership, the risks of exclusion, resentment, and conflict are heightened.

Moreover, advocates occupy a unique role in society. They are expected to hold government and elites accountable. If they are instead perceived as beneficiaries of privileged allocations, their independence and credibility may be questioned. This does not serve the profession, nor the wider public interest.

Silence around this issue compounds the challenge. The media has not raised it, civil society has barely engaged it, and professional voices remain quiet. Yet policy decisions of this magnitude should not pass unnoticed. Open debate ensures legitimacy, and without it, perceptions of favoritism will linger.

The issue is not whether lawyers deserve improved working conditions. They do, just as other professions do. The issue is how such improvements are pursued: through what process, with what safeguards, and in alignment with which national priorities.

South Sudan stands at a stage where policy decisions must reflect fairness, transparency, and equity. The Advocates’ City, if allowed to proceed without scrutiny, risks becoming a precedent that normalizes privilege rather than one that builds stronger institutions. This is why it deserves measured but serious public attention. I sincerely hope it will eventually get the measured attention it should have gotten.

𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐇𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐬 𝐄𝐱𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐍𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬

Poorly disposed off garbage on one of Juba’s streets.

I have always loved clean and organised spaces. There’s a calm that comes with them, a sense of order that sharpens my mind. On the days I leave home tidy, my thoughts flow with clarity, and I often find myself more productive and patient. But the few times I’ve rushed out leaving my home in disarray, the day almost always mirrors that chaos. Things scatter, time slips, small problems magnify, and I return in the evening only to be greeted by the same disorder I carried with me all day.

I have also noticed something else. Whenever a home or office is dirty, arguments sprout easily. People snap at each other over little things. Chaos thrives where cobwebs and clutter are allowed to reign. But in clean, ordered spaces, even modest ones, disagreements soften. People breathe easier, listen longer, and find solutions faster. Hygiene and order are not about vanity. They are about harmony of the mind and community.

Now imagine this truth at the level of a nation. Too many of those entrusted with running South Sudan live in disorganised homes. Cobwebs in the living rooms, dirty bathrooms, garbage tossed carelessly, the same cup passed around for water, are all what characterise their homes. If disorder is normal at home, is it any wonder that our public life mirrors the same? That traffic officers are chosen not by competence but by kinship? That implementing a peace agreement has failed? That garbage fills streams or spaces under bridges, or that spitting in public is seen as nothing unusual? Disorganisation, left unchecked, becomes a governing philosophy.

The reset South Sudan needs begins not with decrees or slogans, but with households where every member owns a duty: sweeping compounds, disposing of waste properly, rising early to leave a clean home, making every dwelling livable. For when our homes are schools of order, our communities will inherit clarity, and with clarity, we will resolve conflicts with reason rather than fists or guns.

In the end, nations are only reflections of the homes we keep. If you want to know the future of South Sudan, look first at the state of its living rooms and compounds.

𝐈𝐧 𝐃𝐞𝐟𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐌𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐧𝐬: 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐛𝐞𝐚𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐎𝐮𝐫 𝐇𝐨𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐬

In South Sudan today, it is not uncommon to hear frustration expressed about Juba Teaching Hospital being “run by interns.” The assumption, often said in anger, is that this automatically means substandard care. But this view is both unfair and uninformed. Having walked the wards and lived this reality, I want to offer a different perspective, one grounded in lived experience and the wider truth of how health systems in our region function.

South Sudanese healthcare workers, whether in public hospitals, private facilities, or under NGOs, are among the least paid in the region. Ethiopia, too, struggles with poor pay, which is why so many of its best doctors migrate in search of greener pastures. What this translates to here at home is a survival economy of care. The doctors cannot rely on a public hospital salary alone. They work at Juba Teaching Hospital or any other public health facility to serve the less privileged, but they also rotate through private facilities where middle-class patients can pay, just to fill the gap left by meagre public income. The result is a schedule stretched across three or four workplaces a week. And yes, this means consultants and specialists may not always be physically present at the teaching hospital. Yet absence does not mean abandonment. Senior doctors ensure they are available for remote consultation, showing up when something beyond interns requires their physical presence, and the day-to-day running of wards is entrusted to medical officers and medical interns.

It is important to clarify who medical interns are. They are not random volunteers or students in training. They are already doctors. They are graduates holding a Bachelor of Medicine and Bachelor of Surgery, licensed temporarily by the South Sudan General Medical Council (SSGMC) to practice. By the time they step into internship, they have rotated across wards, performed procedures under supervision, and mastered the foundations of medicine. Internship exists precisely because medicine is a profession of practice as much as knowledge. The system assumes that, with a few days or weeks of close supervision, a medical intern can competently run a ward. And often, they do. Across Africa, interns are the unseen workforce keeping hospitals alive. Many people today owe their lives to an intern who could not skive a shift because their seniors required accountability, and so they stayed to resuscitate, stitch, prescribe, or simply hold the line until help arrived.

I say this not only as an observer but as one who has lived the life of a medical intern. During my internship in Kenya, I once ran an entire department for four weeks almost alone. The consultant and medical officer provided wonderful supervision and guidance, but they were not always present. It meant I was overstretched, which I would never recommend as a healthy norm, yet it proved beyond doubt that an intern can keep a department running. I also vividly recall a 36-hour stretch where I had to perform thirteen caesarean sections, with only the scrub nurse assisting me. As the intern on call, I had no excuses to hide behind. The mothers and babies could not wait, and I had to deliver care competently, decisively, and tirelessly. These experiences are not unique to me, they reflect what medical interns across Africa face daily. And so, when people dismiss interns, I cannot help but remind them that hospitals run because interns show up, endure, and deliver.

To dismiss medical interns as incapable is to erase the very backbone of healthcare in fragile systems. It is also to misunderstand how learning or teaching hospitals operate. Globally, teaching hospitals, from Nairobi to Kampala, Addis Ababa to Johannesburg, run on the shoulders of interns. Consultants guide, medical officers support, but it is the interns who do the daily grind that keeps patients alive. Yes, they are still learning. But learning in medicine is not an excuse for incompetence. Learning is the design of the profession itself and everyone in it learns until their last breath. The Hippocratic tradition expects every doctor to be sharpened in practice.

If there is outrage, let it not be about medical interns. Let it be about why we have forced a generation of doctors to become part-time workers in their own public hospitals. Let it be about the erosion of policies that once recognized internship as a paid, structured, and respected pathway. Let it be about corruption and uncaring leadership that budget less than 2% for health and then turn to blame the very health workers they underpay and overburden.

The real question is not whether medical interns are capable, they are. The question is how to create conditions that allow both interns and their seniors to thrive. That begins with fair pay and retention so that healthcare workers are not forced to scatter across multiple workplaces simply to survive. It also requires structured supervision, with consultants consistently incentivized to spend more time mentoring interns and guiding them in real time. Equally important is restoring value to internship itself, recognizing it as a paid, protected stage of professional growth rather than cheap labour to be exploited. And above all, the public must demand accountability from leadership: national budgets should reflect health as a priority, not as an afterthought.

So yes, Juba Teaching Hospital is run by medical interns. But that is not the scandal. The scandal is that we undervalue them, underpay them, and then scapegoat or shadowbox them when systemic neglect shows itself. If you walked the wards as I have, you would see a different truth. Interns are not a weakness of our health system; they are its heartbeat. And perhaps the wisest thing we can do is not to sneer at them, but to protect, equip, and honor them. For in their hands, quite literally, rests the future of medicine in South Sudan.

𝐋𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩, 𝐒𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐲𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐒𝐢𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐑𝐨𝐛𝐬 𝐔𝐬

Ms. Adut Salva Kiir, the new Senior Presidential Envoy on Special Programs meeting Dr. Benjamin Bol Mel, the Vice president for the economic cluster within a week of assuming office.

On 20th August 2025, the president of the Republic of South Sudan appointed his daughter Ms. Adut Salva Kiir as the Senior Presidential Envoy on Special Programs (SPESP). Since that day the, the public has heard little beyond the fact that she is the President’s first daughter and founder of Adult Salva Kiir (ASK) foundation. Her speeches have been scarce and, when offered, only hint at fragments: that she was born in hardship, that her struggles were part of the broader liberation struggle, and that she has an economic background. Admirable, yes, but woefully inadequate. These scraps do not amount to the kind of story that inspires a generation.

Sadly, this is not unique to her case. For most appointments announced by presidential decree, the media houses limit themselves to headlines:“𝐒𝐨-𝐚𝐧𝐝-𝐬𝐨 𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐝.”Little effort is made to go further. The public is rarely given a deeper understanding of the appointee. Their academic path, their track record, their professional contributions, and their worldview are not shared. Instead, we are left with names and hometowns, as though that alone should qualify someone to lead. The result is that people forget that leadership requires more than lineage, connections, or geography. It demands competence, vision, and experience.

When the media does not probe, society pays the price. A girl watching on television, or scrolling on social media, yearns to know not only the title but the journey. What studies shaped her? What obstacles did she overcome? What mentors, disciplines, or defining moments prepared her for this role? These are the details that plant seeds of possibility. Without them, leadership is reduced to titles, not lived merit.

The absence of information does not only rob inspiration, it undermines accountability. Leadership is not just about who you are related to; it is about the qualifications, discipline, and vision you bring to a role. Without critical questions from and answers dug by the media, the public cannot assess whether a leader has the requisite skills or even the basic qualifications for the task. In failing to demand answers, both governance and the standards by which leaders are judged, are weakened.

But the silence is not the media’s alone. Those who claim to have known her since childhood, who have since been busy building support camps in her name, have offered no meaningful insight either. They too perpetuate the gap, preferring loyalty and praise over truth and detail.

And the leader herself bears responsibility. For women especially, telling one’s story comprehensively is not a luxury; it is a duty. When women ascend to high office but fail to share their journeys in ways that are authentic and complete, they deny younger generations, particularly girls a roadmap. The result is a leadership figure who feels distant, inaccessible, and uninspiring.

Leadership is not just about occupying a seat. It is about embodying a story that teaches, inspires, and sets standards. The media must do its job to probe and narrate. Leaders must embrace the duty of authentic storytelling. And as a society, we must demand both. For when stories remain untold, we do not only lose inspiration, we lose accountability, and we allow power to rest on titles alone.

𝐀𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐄𝐥𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐥𝐲: 𝐀 𝐑𝐞𝐟𝐥𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐧 𝐇𝐨𝐧𝐨𝐫, 𝐍𝐞𝐠𝐥𝐞𝐜𝐭, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐑𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐰𝐚𝐥

Yesterday, I was privileged once again to take the pulpit during my local church’s Sabbath service. It was the global #EndItNow Emphasis Sabbath, an annual moment when Adventist congregations worldwide confront the scourge of abuse in its many forms. This year, the spotlight fell on a group often forgotten until their frailty becomes unavoidable; the elderly. Stewarded by women’s ministries across the globe, it was a call not just to awareness, but to repentance and action.

The memory text came from 𝐄𝐱𝐨𝐝𝐮𝐬 𝟐𝟎:𝟏𝟐 “Honor your father and your mother”, and the sermon was titled “𝐀𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐄𝐥𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐥𝐲: 𝐇𝐨𝐧𝐨𝐫 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐅𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐌𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫.”Jesus Himself reinforced this command in 𝐌𝐚𝐫𝐤 𝟕:𝟓–𝟏𝟑 , when He rebuked the Pharisees for upholding tradition as an excuse to abandon their parents. By extension, He rebuked every generation tempted to treat the old as burdens instead of blessings.

I must acknowledge that this sermon was not my own original creation. Like countless other Adventist preachers yesterday, I paraphrased the wisdom penned in 2007 by two remarkable women leaders: 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫-𝐃𝐚𝐰𝐧 𝐒𝐦𝐚𝐥𝐥, now departed, and 𝐑𝐚𝐪𝐮𝐞𝐥 𝐀𝐫𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐬, still faithfully serving. Their foresight then has become, in our time, an urgent intervention. For this I am profoundly grateful.

In preparing to preach, I could not escape a deep, uncomfortable reflection: how have I treated the elderly entrusted to my life? There are moments I am proud of, times I have protected, helped, or simply listened. But honesty compels me to admit there are also moments of neglect.

There have been days when I delayed returning calls from my mother, father, or uncle, even when I knew they reached out simply to connect. I have older friends who have accompanied me faithfully in my career and spiritual journey, yet more often than not it is they who initiate the call, not me. On the surface these lapses may seem small, but they are not. To ignore the communication of elders is to inflict emotional neglect. To immerse myself in a full day of church activity while failing to return an uncle’s repeated calls is, in its own way, a form of spiritual neglect. May God’s grace suffice where I have fallen short.

What Elder Abuse Really Looks Like? The 𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐥𝐝 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡 𝐎𝐫𝐠𝐚𝐧𝐢𝐳𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 defines elder abuse as any act or failure to act appropriately within a relationship of trust that causes harm or distress to an older person. Too often, we imagine only physical violence, but abuse takes many subtler forms. It can be financial exploitation, when resources meant for care are siphoned away. It can be emotional neglect, when phone calls are ignored and their voices are silenced. It can be social abandonment, when we treat them as invisible once they no longer provide materially. It can even be spiritual abuse, when religion is used as an excuse to deny help, like a child who claims all their income was “given to God” and therefore their parents must go without food or medicine.

Abuse also shows up in cultural attitudes. Too often the elderly are treated as irrelevant, boring, or a nuisance. Yet they are bearers of memory, wisdom, and dignity. They deserve conversation, companionship, and the assurance that their lives still matter beyond what they once owned or provided.

I have seen grandchildren unmoved by the poverty of grandparents who once raised them when their own parents were busy. I have heard young people boast that ensuring their parents live decently is “not their responsibility.” This is more than ingratitude; it is disobedience to the command to honor one’s parents.

Yet preventing elder abuse does not require monumental gestures. It begins with simple, deliberate acts: returning a call, asking about their youth, listening without rushing, or visiting not to showcase achievements but simply to share presence. Even the act of checking in on a friend’s parents, especially when distance keeps their child who’s one’s friend away, can warm an elder’s heart and affirm that their child has built meaningful relationships. During festive seasons, rather than reducing visits to mere displays of success, we can choose instead to spend quality time, characterized by real conversation and genuine attention.

For communities, congregations, and workplaces, intentional recognition also makes a difference. Imagine dedicating a day each year to celebrate the elderly, inviting them to lead an activity with the support of younger members, and creating intergenerational spaces where they are not just present but central. Such practices are simple but deeply restorative.

For Christians, honoring the elderly is not a suggestion; it is a command. 𝐋𝐞𝐯𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐮𝐬 𝟏𝟗:𝟑𝟐 is unequivocal: “Stand up in the presence of the aged, show respect for the elderly and revere your God.”To dishonor the old is, ultimately, to dishonor God Himself. The chilling story of the prophet Elisha in 𝟐 𝐊𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝟐:𝟐𝟑–𝟐𝟓 reminds us that when the young mock or mistreat the old, heaven itself may intervene. God defends the elderly even against the arrogance of youth.

And for those who do not share this faith, the truth remains: age beckons us all. If we do not die young, we too will grow old. The scripts we write today in how we treat the elderly will one day be replayed by our children when they watch us grow frail.

Let me end this reflection to do what I failed to do earlier last week which is returning the calls of my uncle who’s in his late seventies, had phoned me three times last week and once today already. I haven’t returned his calls. Often, he just wants to know how I am. That is his way of showing love. My silence denies him that joy. That is my neglect, and I must repent of it.

Friends, let us pause and ask ourselves: Whose call or presence have we ignored? Whose dignity have we overlooked? Whose wisdom have we silenced? Old age is not a burden to be managed, but a crown of experience to be honored.

May we not wait until it is too late to learn this truth.